So I am WAY behind in my reading but finally caught up with my mags today and my take away? People are bat shit crazy! The last story I read, I think in Cosmo was this story about a University of Washington student who was dating some guy and on their second date she realized they were going to hook up. She constantly reminded him she wanted him to wear protection which she saw him put on, even knowing she was protected herself with the nuva ring. Right after sex she looked over and noticed that he had not only removed his condom during sex but had also taken it upon himself to remove her Nuva Ring! She was mortified.
Days later she confronted him and he let her know he in no way wanted her to be pregnant but that she 'wouldn't get pregnant'
The reason I am saying something other than the obvious, check yourself before you sleep with some scum bag like this, is this is how many unplanned pregnancies happen. His way of thinking the whole 'You won't get pregnant' comment really grinds me. Kind of like saying I am indestructible and not only will you not get pregnant but you will not get any STD's because of my complete disregard for even my own safety.
Before I end this yes the girl was tested and no she came back with no STD's and no she did not have a baby but I were to ever meet this guy I think I may want to kick him in the junk!
Thursday, May 31, 2012
Wednesday, May 30, 2012
Not there, at least today
So I haven't really been upset about anything lately. We moved nearly two weeks ago and so my focus has been on the move and the packing and unpacking. While I would hate to say I don't think about my son, which isn't the case he crosses my mind most of the day, I just haven't been upset or sad at all. I try to reserve my anger for what is going on in my life that I have some type of control over or for the 'Why' of how I got here.
I recently found out that my son's father thought it would be a great idea to ask out my BEST friend shortly after I left him. Apparently she kept it from me because we were friends for a long while after him and I were done but that didn't stop him, while at the same time trying to DESPERATELY get back with me. Now I thought I would be angry but I was wrong, I mean it was a bit confusing to me when I initially heard it but honestly she kept it from me because she was trying to protect me which I understand. Its not her fault he is a dirt bag.
I wish he read my blog to be honest. I would hate for all this I say to go on deaf ears but I am to a point where I want NOTHING to do with him ever. I know that my son's parents will eventually ask for his contact info, though I am certain this is YEARS down the line, so I mean I know HOW to get a hold of him IF I had too but luckily I don't which is a relief to me because he makes me really uncomfortable. I found the man I will be with for life and I am happy in that. I can't ask for more.
I recently found out that my son's father thought it would be a great idea to ask out my BEST friend shortly after I left him. Apparently she kept it from me because we were friends for a long while after him and I were done but that didn't stop him, while at the same time trying to DESPERATELY get back with me. Now I thought I would be angry but I was wrong, I mean it was a bit confusing to me when I initially heard it but honestly she kept it from me because she was trying to protect me which I understand. Its not her fault he is a dirt bag.
I wish he read my blog to be honest. I would hate for all this I say to go on deaf ears but I am to a point where I want NOTHING to do with him ever. I know that my son's parents will eventually ask for his contact info, though I am certain this is YEARS down the line, so I mean I know HOW to get a hold of him IF I had too but luckily I don't which is a relief to me because he makes me really uncomfortable. I found the man I will be with for life and I am happy in that. I can't ask for more.
Thursday, May 10, 2012
'16 and Pregnant'
I am into the show because I was once '17 and Pregnant' living in a life I hated, feeling smothered and like I was drowning at every second of everyday. If I would have been portrayed on the show I am sure things would have turned out differently and I may have been pressured to keep my child by my bf's parents even though I didn't want too. When his mom found out I was pregnant in her house, MONTHS after I gave birth might I add, her first words were we would have helped you KEEP the baby. HA yeah ok you think that and I am sure she does to this day.
So here is my perspective on this whole idea. I like the concept of the show. It doesn't hide anything it shows these girls trapped in lives because they are now with child. They have no freedom to act like teens because they went in the relationship with the attitude of 'It can't happen to me.' How do I know? That was my though process, NOTHING WILL EVER HAPPEN TO ME and if I let it go long enough maybe it will just go away and work itself out. I don't think these girls are uneducated on birth control most of them were on the pill or using contraception of some kind the issue is miss use and lack of control with their thinking.
The issue that arises is that yes in the heat of the moment even you the adult reader don't always think about the last time you took the pill or if he is wearing the condom unless you have had at least one unplanned pregnancy. I haven't done any research to support my thoughts here but I am willing to bet that the reason the morning after pill became an over the counter drug is because insurance companies were getting sick of paying out for doctors visits for the script or having soon to be mom's explain the reason they are pregnant is because they didn't have time to make an appointment with their OB/GYN to get the script so it becomes a bigger cost to the insurance company because the mom ends up conceiving and adding a child to the medical plan.
If you are a teen reading this here is my opinion, it CAN, it WILL and it HAS happened to people you know! Be more then educated be an advocate for your future and be sure you are protected. If you are young, like under 23, ALWAYS use a condom with OR without the pill or whatever you are using IF you are using something. Not only does it help prevent pregnancy but it helps prevent STD's. You don't know where your partner has been and you don't know where they are going when you aren't around. Not saying that everyone is cheating what I am saying is that you don't know who ISN'T cheating. You also don't know if you will be with your partner for a week or 5 years so not using every form of protection you can is just risking too much.
If you have any questions visit www.itsyoursexlife.com BE EDUCATED!
So here is my perspective on this whole idea. I like the concept of the show. It doesn't hide anything it shows these girls trapped in lives because they are now with child. They have no freedom to act like teens because they went in the relationship with the attitude of 'It can't happen to me.' How do I know? That was my though process, NOTHING WILL EVER HAPPEN TO ME and if I let it go long enough maybe it will just go away and work itself out. I don't think these girls are uneducated on birth control most of them were on the pill or using contraception of some kind the issue is miss use and lack of control with their thinking.
The issue that arises is that yes in the heat of the moment even you the adult reader don't always think about the last time you took the pill or if he is wearing the condom unless you have had at least one unplanned pregnancy. I haven't done any research to support my thoughts here but I am willing to bet that the reason the morning after pill became an over the counter drug is because insurance companies were getting sick of paying out for doctors visits for the script or having soon to be mom's explain the reason they are pregnant is because they didn't have time to make an appointment with their OB/GYN to get the script so it becomes a bigger cost to the insurance company because the mom ends up conceiving and adding a child to the medical plan.
If you are a teen reading this here is my opinion, it CAN, it WILL and it HAS happened to people you know! Be more then educated be an advocate for your future and be sure you are protected. If you are young, like under 23, ALWAYS use a condom with OR without the pill or whatever you are using IF you are using something. Not only does it help prevent pregnancy but it helps prevent STD's. You don't know where your partner has been and you don't know where they are going when you aren't around. Not saying that everyone is cheating what I am saying is that you don't know who ISN'T cheating. You also don't know if you will be with your partner for a week or 5 years so not using every form of protection you can is just risking too much.
If you have any questions visit www.itsyoursexlife.com BE EDUCATED!
Monday, May 7, 2012
The new
So I went through the proper channels and got an update about my son recently. I was ecstatic, excited, scared and worried all at once. Its been three years since I have heard anything and so when I got the letter I was wrought with all emotions at once. I wish things were different I really do but just getting this update made my whole week. I had only told a couple of people I would be hearing from his mom within the month so I wouldn't have to keep explaining to EVERYONE why nothing had come.
A little while ago I had to deal with some anger about my situation from someone outside of it. While I see the anger and frustration its just NOT WORTH IT. I can explain and honestly its pretty simple when I met his parents I knew INSTANTLY they were his parents. I knew we would be tied together for life the instant I saw them in person. When discussing things with them I felt like a part of their family, they just had a way of making you want to be a part of what they had created.
They made me promises about my childs life that just showed me I was making the right decision. They were talking about a life I had always wanted as a child for mine! I couldn't have been happier, or more jealous! LOL The thing about this situation is yes I am upset and yes I feel like I deserve an apology and a better explanation then 'We got busy' BUT they kept each and every promise they ever made to me. My child is happy, he is well rounded, he does things that keep him active and that challenge him and he takes the vacations I always wish I could. I can't say his family is a happy family now, I can't say that he loves where he is what I can say is I couldn't have made a better choice. With me life would have been horrible, for all of us. I hated his dad for what he had done to me, for the words that were said and the hatred that I felt.
I can't explain away what I did though. My child may never want to have a relationship with me and sadly I HAVE to accept that. I would never want to go back and change our situation though and all I can do is hope that he takes the high road and looks at what I went through and understands that I put his needs before my own and I did that for 9 months and for his whole life.
So thank you to his mom and dad. Thank you to his brother and whole family. I know I don't have to worry about him I know he is happy and healthy and growing at a faster rate of speed then we can keep up, we predicted when he was hours old that he was going to outgrow everyone! HAHAHA I only hope that you speak fondly of me and encourage positive discussions of me when I do come up. I love you all and hope that this letter is just the beginning of more to come. That you will trust me and know that I would NEVER compromise anything that came to you and I hold you close to my heart and prayers every day.
A little while ago I had to deal with some anger about my situation from someone outside of it. While I see the anger and frustration its just NOT WORTH IT. I can explain and honestly its pretty simple when I met his parents I knew INSTANTLY they were his parents. I knew we would be tied together for life the instant I saw them in person. When discussing things with them I felt like a part of their family, they just had a way of making you want to be a part of what they had created.
They made me promises about my childs life that just showed me I was making the right decision. They were talking about a life I had always wanted as a child for mine! I couldn't have been happier, or more jealous! LOL The thing about this situation is yes I am upset and yes I feel like I deserve an apology and a better explanation then 'We got busy' BUT they kept each and every promise they ever made to me. My child is happy, he is well rounded, he does things that keep him active and that challenge him and he takes the vacations I always wish I could. I can't say his family is a happy family now, I can't say that he loves where he is what I can say is I couldn't have made a better choice. With me life would have been horrible, for all of us. I hated his dad for what he had done to me, for the words that were said and the hatred that I felt.
I can't explain away what I did though. My child may never want to have a relationship with me and sadly I HAVE to accept that. I would never want to go back and change our situation though and all I can do is hope that he takes the high road and looks at what I went through and understands that I put his needs before my own and I did that for 9 months and for his whole life.
So thank you to his mom and dad. Thank you to his brother and whole family. I know I don't have to worry about him I know he is happy and healthy and growing at a faster rate of speed then we can keep up, we predicted when he was hours old that he was going to outgrow everyone! HAHAHA I only hope that you speak fondly of me and encourage positive discussions of me when I do come up. I love you all and hope that this letter is just the beginning of more to come. That you will trust me and know that I would NEVER compromise anything that came to you and I hold you close to my heart and prayers every day.
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